रविवार, 31 दिसंबर 2017

8 resolutions for better parenting in the New Year(HINDI )

अपना रवैया बदलने की ज़रूरत है हमें अपनी संतानों के प्रति तभी हम अच्छे माँ बाप बन पायेंगे,अपनी संतानों को बेहतर ढंग से देख जान समझ बूझ पायेंगे।फिलवक्त तो माँ बाप और संतानें अलग अलग वेवलेंग्थ पर हैं। कनेक्टिविटी या तो नामालूम सी ही है ऊपर ऊपर से या बहुत खराब। 

आइये देखते हैं क्या कुछ सुधार  किया जा सकता है इस दिशा में ?

"A stitch in time saves nine ." A timely remedy saves a big effort later .

जख्म का इलाज़ अभी कीजिये। बाद में सर्जरी से भी ठीक नहीं होगा। इस एक सामयिक कदम का फायदा पति पत्नी के रूप में माँ बाप को ही नहीं उनकी संतानों की भी संतानों तक जाएगा। आपकी जीवन इकाइयों (genes )में छा जाएगा। 

आत्म सुधार के लिए निरीक्षण  कीजिये  आप खुद ही खुद का -कहाँ -कहाँ ,क्या- क्या, किस -किस सुधार की गुंजाइश है? 

चलिए कुछ आम बातों को अपने संज्ञान में ध्यान में चित्त में ले आते हैं :

(१ )जब आप अपने बच्चों के साथ हैं  जिज्ञासा और आनंद में आकर सुरुचिपूर्ण तरीके से उन्हें सुनिए तवज़्ज़ो दीजिये वो क्या कहना चाहते हैं आप से। सौ फीसद आप का ध्यान उस समय उन पर ही हो किसी फोन काल पर या उस दिन के कैज़ुअल  पर  नहीं। 
बस खुले मन से सुन लीजिये उन्हें। उनकी सुनिए फिर देखियेगा धीरे -धीरे काल के प्रवाह में उनके व्यवहार की कई गुथ्थियाँ आसाँ हो जाएंगी उनके टेम्पर टेंट्रम्स गुस्से वाला मिज़ाज़ ,तुनकमिज़ाजी वाली मनोदशा कमतर हो जाएंगे यह सब कुछ आपका ध्यान अपनी और खींचने का एक तरीका ही होता है और कुछ नहीं। 

नए साल के अभिनव संकल्प के तहत आप कनेक्ट कीजिये उनके साथ जुड़िये उनके पलक्षणों से खासकर जब वह आपके आसपास हैं और कुछ कह मांग रहे हैं आप से। 

अहस्तक्षेप की मित्रवत  नीति हो आपकी अपनी संतानों के प्रति नए साल का इससे बेहतर संकल्प और क्या हो सकता है।  
अपने सिर और कांधों पर से दिलो दिमाग से अपनी स्वरचित संस्कृति के बोध  का ,अपने नागर बोध का बोझा उतार फेंकिए -इनका क्या होगा ?इनका जो कुछ भी होगा समय के साथ वह अच्छा ही होगा इसमें आप अपना मगज़ मत खपाइये। 
क्यों चाहते हैं आप परफैक्शन अपने बच्चों में उसके टीचर को स्कूल में उससे कोई शिकायत नहीं है फिर आप को क्यों है ?उसे वर्तनी स्पेल्लिंग्स नहीं आती ?अपनी टीचर के साथ वह कम्युनिकेट कर रहा है दोनों एक दूसरे की बात समझ लेते हैं। आपको क्या कष्ट है। 
यह दुनिया आपके हस्तक्षेप के बिना बेहतर चलेगी यकीन मानिये। बच्चे भी खुश रहेंगे आप अबंध की नीति अपनाइये। निर्बंध रहिये बच्चों के साथ। आपके ख़्वाब उनमें फलीभूत हों यह बिलकुल ज़रूरी नहीं है उनके अपने ख़्वाब हैं। आप अच्छे दोस्त बनिए उनके। 
उनका आइकन रोल मॉडल बनने के लिए बस आप खुद को सुधार लीजिये देखिये कहाँ -कहाँ ऐसा हो सकता है आपके पार्ट पर। 

(१)भूलकर भी शराब पीकर  गाड़ी  मत चलाइये ,फोन पे मत बतिआइये ,मल्टीटास्किंग मत करिये ,अगर कोई लाइन काट रहा है उसे गाली मत निकालिए ,सीट बेल्ट बांधकर रखिये अपनी सुरक्षा के लिए आखिर आपका बच्चा भी गाड़ी में बैठा है आप उसके रोल मॉडल बन सकते हैं अच्छे या बुरे ये आपके अपने हाथों में है।

(२ )अनुशासन के नाम पर अपना डंडा मत  चलाइये  डांटडपट मत करिये चीखिये मत बच्चों के साथ उनमें व्यवहार संबंधी समस्याओं के जनक आप बन सकते हैं बार बार अपना यह रवैया और खीझ उनपर आज़मा कर।बच्चे अपना स्वाभिमान ही नहीं खो देंगे अवसाद के शिकार भी हो सकते हैं आपके इस (प्रतिकूल ,नामाकूल )रवैये से। 
पति पत्नी आपस में भी बच्चों के सामने अपनी खीझ कम नहीं निकालते  हैं।कुछेक तो चीज़ें उठा -उठा कर पटकने लगते हैं। एक दूसरे के साथ हाथापाई  भी। यही व्यवहार आपका बच्चों में अंतरित हो सकता है कालान्तर में बस इतना ज़रूर सोच लीजिये २०१८ में। 
(३ )बच्चों की किसी बात पे गुस्सा आने पर वहां से हट जाइये ,पहले अपना गुस्सा शांत कीजिये फिर प्रतिक्रिया कीजिये।यह बच्चों की सबसे बड़ी सेवा होगी वह इसे देखेंगे नॉट भी करेंगे।इस का अनुकरण भी करेंगे भावी जीवन में।
(४ )इन दिनों में एक बहस चल रही है वीडियो गेमिंग को लेकर ,मई २०१८ में इंटरनेशनल क्लास्सिफ़िकेशन्स ऑफ़ डिज़ीज़ीज़ ICD गेमिंग को मेन्टल डिसऑर्डर का दर्ज़ा देने जा रही है। आप देखिये आप खुद कितना समय डिजिटल वर्ल्ड को दे रहे हैं। आकलन कीजिये अपना और  अपने बच्चों का इस बाबत और उपाय निकालिये कैसे इस समय को आप बाहर की गतिविधियों से कम कर सकते हैं। आउट डोर बच्चों के साथ कहाँ कहाँ रह सकते हैं कब कब रहे सकते हैं प्रति सप्ताह। आहिस्ता -आहिस्ता यदि कोई अति है तो उसे कम कीजिये।  
(५ )थोड़ा सा समय आप खुद के लिए भी अपनी ख़ुशी आनंद आध्यात्मिक  उत्कर्ष के लिए भी निकालिए।आपका अध्यात्म उन्मुखी होना ,आत्ममुखी होना अपने निज स्वरूप से मुखातिब होना न सिर्फ आपको प्रसन्नता देगा आपके बच्चों के लिए आइंदा के लिए एक नज़ीर बनेगा। एक्ट नाउ। 
(६ )बच्चों से अपनी गलती के लिए खेद मानने में मत झिझकिये ,उनके साथ नाहक  चिल्ल पौं  की है डांटडपट की है जरूरत से ज्यादा और बे -मौक़ा किसी भी वजह से तो फ़ौरन उन्हें मना लीजिये कहकर बेटा गलती हो गई हमसे।माँ बाप से भी गलती होती है आखिर हम सब इंसान हैं। लेकिन गलती का इल्म होने पर गलती मान लें। 
मूल आलेख अंग्रेजी में भी पढ़िए :   
If you're looking to improve your parenting, you're not alone. In my opinion, it's an essential area of course correction, up there with weight loss, better eating and better spending, arguably more essential.
What's beautiful about parenting resolutions is that your kids benefit too, and likely your spouse and any potential future grandkids. You get a lot of bang for your resolution buck.
As with any resolution, honestly examine areas where you feel you could be doing better or want to improve. Below are eight parenting resolution thought-starters in categories we all probably need to give more attention in the coming year.
Being there
There's a lot of talk, many articles and a long shelf of books on mindful parenting. But it all boils down to this: When you're with your kids, give them full, curious and happy attention.
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Listen to them, respond, don't let yourself be distracted by your phone, or future-thinking or your own agenda. Be fully there for them, giving what they need the most: your attention, combined with an openness that encourages them to share whatever is on their mind or what's happening with them at that moment.
The dividends of this effort are deep and long-long lasting -- from fewer tantrums to stronger bonds. If you only pick one resolution, make it this one.

Be more laissez-faire about some things
You may be burdening yourself with milestones and cultural expectations that really don't matter if you pause to think about them. Here are some developmental achievements you don't really need to waste time, energy and anxiety pushing. Rest assured these will almost always work themselves out in due time.
  • Crawling
  • Talking
  • Walking
  • Potty training
  • Bathing regularly
  • Learning to read
  • Riding a bike
Here are some things that maybe you shouldn't be so laissez-faire about, even at early ages.
  • Good nutrition
  • Enough sleep
  • Exposure to nature
  • Good manners
  • Kindness

Don't drive under the influence of your phone

Here comes your PSA: More than 40,000 people died on US roads in 2016, according to National Safety Council estimates. Many roadway fatalities involve drunken driving, speeding and not wearing seat belts (so don't do any of those things, clearly), but increasingly, accidents are being caused by people texting or talking while driving.


Fifty-one percent of teens reported seeing their parents checking and/or using their mobile devices while driving, according to a Common Sense Media poll last year. And when you repeatedly model a behavior in front of your kids, that's called teaching.
Once they have a license, do you want your kids texting or talking while they drive? Do you want other drivers texting or talking while driving anywhere near your children? Me neither. When you stop doing it yourself, you are immediately modeling the behavior you want from them when it's their time to be behind the wheel. And help spread this gospel to friends and family. The lives we save may be our own.

Yell less, breathe more

I'd like to meet the parent that hasn't been driven to the point of yelling at some point (or many points) in their parenting life. That level of frustration is understandable, but yelling is the least productive way to manage it.
And it can do damage. Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh and the University of Michigan found that tweens and teens whose parents yelled for discipline had increased behavioral issuesincluding being violent. Another study linked yelling to lowering a child's self-esteem and increasing the likelihood of depression.
Plus, it just ramps up the family stress level all around. In her book, "Ready, Set, Breathe," Carla Naumburg shares some simple exercises to interrupt the anger that is rising in you and respond when you are more calm. An easy one is to place your hands on a surface, like the counter, and feel your feet rooted into the ground. Then breathe, count to 10 and respond after you have lowered your stress response.
You can also walk away (give yourself a time out), lay down on your bed or a couch and breathe slowly. You can even tell your kids that you need to take a break before you respond to them, because you want to calm yourself. That's great modeling for the times when they feel the same level of frustration.
There's one rare exception: if your child is in immediate danger and needs to comply. Last year I yelled at my daughters when a bear entered our campground. "Come to me, right now!" I shouted as soon as I saw it walking toward them. The older one complied immediately, but her little sister was frozen in fear -- from my yelling. She hadn't seen the bear.

Slow down

Some of the most difficult moments of parenting are the transitions. The times we are trying to get kids to put their shoes and socks on to get out the door. Some of this you can't avoid. Everyone needs to get to school and work on time. But there are also times when we create rushed transitions by overscheduling ourselves. The pace of modern life has sped up considerably since our childhoods, and kids have less time to be bored and discover what they can do in moments of quiet.
My wife is often pushing us to do less as a family, because then we experience each other more. If our whole Saturday is planned, we lose the opportunity to have long, lazy mornings of board games and fort building or the chance to all of a sudden decide to take a family hike and be in nature.
For those times when you can't alter the schedule (early school mornings, for instance) building in more time to get ready will help reduce the level of impatience we feel and then transfer to/teach our kids.

Avoid "like" all the, like, time

If your kids often say "like" when they are, like, talking, and they sound, like, wishy-washy and unsure of, like, what they mean, they probably learned it from you. I know my kids certainly did. And maybe we can all, like, do a better job of reducing our use of this verbal crutch. Clearly one sounds more knowledgeable and sincere when they, like, don't use the L-word so much. Maybe this isn't an issue for your family, but it's definitely an area I am going to work on in 2018.

Decrease screen time

Measure your screen consumption, and that of each of your kids', over the course of a typical week. Count everything (school, work, smartphones, laptops, TV) and add it all up. Whatever it is, it's probably too much.
There are relationship and development downsides to excessive screen use that far outweigh the modest educational benefits.
I'm no Luddite -- this column is on a screen -- but resolve to cut their (and maybe your) time spent staring at the digital world by 25%, or if that sounds drastic, by just 10%. Or pay attention to moments when all of you are reaching for a screen and offer an alternative instead. Who wants to play Jenga or Uno? Let's go outside for a game of basketball or catch! Lego time! Improv games! Let's read! Dance! Cook! Write! Art!

Treat yo'self

I can't personally relate to this problem because I have a greater tendency toward selfishness (which I'm working on) than selflessness. But more often than not, parents are giving so much of themselves that they are often miserable and exhausted as a result.
Kids benefit from happy parents, so if your balance is off-center, make a resolution for more "me" time away from the kids in the happiness-making pursuits of friendships, creativity, exercise, sleep or just being alone -- whatever you need more of in order to be a more effective and happier parent.

How to track and succeed

One of the major tenets of resolution and habit success is tracking. And while "better parenting" is difficult to measure, more specific action is easy to. Just give yourself a grade on your resolution at the end of every day on a piece of paper. Research suggests that the average time it takes for an action to become automatic and habitualized is just over two months, if you stick with it daily.
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Another useful device is accountability. Tell your spouse or your family, and even your kids, what you're working to improve. They will remind and support you because they want you to succeed and the family to thrive.
The mere effort of paying attention to these areas of parenting will benefit you, even when you fall short of your new goals. And, remember, mistakes are just moments to model for our kids. So, when, despite your best efforts, you do yell -- just apologize and show your kids that we are all human. And remind yourself that parenthood is a journey, not a destination.


Will your diet start Monday? Try the 'non-diet diet' (HINDI )

कायम रहने लायक विकास की तरह 'नानडाइट- डाइट' आपकी पूरी जीवन अवधि के लिए है। यह कोई अल्पकालिक क्रेश कोर्स नहीं है कोई जादुई खुराक नहीं है। इसकी कोई एक्सपाईरेशन डेट भी नहीं है ताउम्र आपके साथ रहने वाली स्वास्थ्यकर खुराक का नाम 'नानडाइट -डाइट' है।  

यहां कोई दम्भ नहीं है कुछ 'न खाने' का कुछ 'छोड़ने' का अपनी इच्छा शक्ति के  अतिरिक्त प्रदर्शन का। कोई पाबंदी भी नहीं है के ये नहीं खाना ,वो नहीं खाना।ऐसा करके आप अपनी  खुराक में किसी पौष्टिक तत्व की कमी कर बैठेंगे। मौके के अनुरूप आप उस दिन की खुराक का नियोजन कर सकते हैं जिस दिन आपको किसी ख़ास पार्टी में जाकर चोचलेट केक या अपनी पसंदीदा कोई और चीज़ खानी है पिज़ा खाना है।दिन में उस दिन आप ब्राउन ब्रेड मत खाइये।पास्ता मत खाइये।  स्टार्च युक्त और कोई खाद्य न लीजिये।  

यहां आग्रह चयन का नहीं है गुणवत्ता का है खुराक की -जिसमें सुबह -दोपहर -शाम प्रोटीन के अलावा  खाद्य रेशे फ़ाइबर्स ज़रूरी तौर पर शामिल हों ,जहां तक मुमकिन हो।

ब्लेक चॉकलेट का एक स्क्वायर आप ले सकते हैं ज्यादा भाता है तो दो भी। क्वांटिटी नहीं यहां तवज़्ज़ो सारा  क्वालिटी पर है। भूखों क्यों रहिएगा आप।   

शाम का खाना आप जल्दी खा लीजिये। बारह घंटे की नियमित फास्टिंग हो जाएगी। व्रत उपवास से मिलने वाले लाभ से कम न होगा यह फायदा। सप्ताह में एक या दो दिन उपवास रखना ज़रूरी नहीं रह जाएगा। 

वजन कम करने का नए साल में लक्ष्य रखने वालों के लिए यह एक कारगर उपाय सिद्ध होगा।

तवज़्ज़ो खाने के मनोविज्ञान पर भी है आप जिस भी चीज़ से खुद को महरूम रखियेगा उसकी ही ललक बढ़ जायेगी और मौक़ा मिलने पर आप चुकेंगे नहीं बिंज ईटिंग से। ज्यादा खा जायेंगे आप।

यहां फ़ूड के प्रति वर्जना की नहीं दोस्ती बनाने पर आग्रह है। आपके रिश्ते प्रीतिकर हों खाने के साथ। 

यहां वर्जनाएं नहीं हैं मनाही नहीं है कुछ चीज़ों से ख़ास परहेज़ की।कोई झंडा नहीं गाड़ना है आपको दम्भ का।  

Rigidity kills 

यह नियम यहां भी लागू होगा। खाने की मेज़ अर्थमेटिक या अलजब्रा नहीं है। यहां खाने के प्रति न कोई वर्जित क्षेत्र है न कोई अपराध बोध। अदबदाकर खाना है। पूरे होशोहवाश में खाना है। खाने को एन्जॉय करना है। मज़े से खाना है। कामयाब वही है जिसके जीवन में दीर्घकालिक नियोजन है सदुपयोग है हरेक चीज़ का। 

अपने हलके नाश्ते में पुष्टिकर तत्व रखिये मील्स में प्रोटीन और फ़ाईबर्स इसे दोहराया गया है ताकि सनद रहे आपका फोकस रहे। नानडाइट -डाइट पर। शौक  से खाइये डोसा और ऑमलेट पालक भरवा लीजिये बीच में या फिर चेडर चीज़। 

सलाद पत्ता जो भी उपलब्ध हो ,खीरा ककड़ी ,ब्रोकली दोपहर के खाने में ले सकते हैं।टमाटर हर घर में उपलब्ध रहता है।  

परिष्कृत स्टार्च को खुराक में सीमित रखिये मनाही नहीं है बस इतना है इन्हें आप जरूरत से ज्यादा  मत खाइये क्योंकि  इन्हें सुगर्स में टूटते देर नहीं लगती। तौंद की वजह यही बनते हैं रोज़ ऱोज़ बे -हिसाब खाने से। हिसाब से खाइये। बात सारी नियोजन की है। एक ही स्टार्च अपने दिन भर के खाने  में रखिये एक से ज्यादा नहीं।मसलन पास्ता और ब्राउन ब्रेड में से एक ही काफी है। एक ब्रेड का स्लाइस या फिर पौन कप तैयार पास्ता काफी है। 
चार घंटे से पहले दोबारा कुछ मत खाइये। चार घंटे के बाद कुछ खा लीजिये। ओवर ईटिंग से बचने का कारगर उपाय साबित होगा। 

रात के भोजन और अगली सुबह के नाश्ते में १२ से १४ घंटे का अंतराल बेहतरीन उपाय साबित होगा वजन को लक्षित वजन पर बनाये रखने का बिना किसी झंझट के बस रात का खाना जल्दी खाना होगा। 

सारा सवाल आपकी जीवन शैली का है चर्या से जुड़ा है। किसी एक दिन या चंद दिनों का मामला नहीं है.आपके  खानपान जीवन शैली से जुड़ी  है आपकी सेहत की नव्ज़। 

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  • Resolving to lose weight? Maybe it's time to re-think strategy around diets
  • Registered dietitian: Try "a sustainable eating plan that is balanced and is not restrictive"
(CNN)For the new year, if you've been struggling with your weight, you might turn to a new diet for help with shedding pounds.
So what will it be in 2018? Weight Watchers? Paleo? Jenny Craig? Low-carb?
Some nutritionists say rather than jumping on the latest diet bandwagon or trend, it's time to consider embracing a "non-diet diet" -- basically a set of guiding principles that can help you lose weight and keep it off for good.
    "A non-diet diet is for anyone who has ever said 'The diet starts Monday,' " said Brooke Alpert, a registered dietitian and author of "The Diet Detox: Why Your Diet is Making You Fat and What to Do About It." "It's a lifestyle approach to healthy eating."

    What's wrong with diets

    The problem with most diets, according to Alpert, is that they have an "expiration date."
    "Whether it's one day, 10 days, 30 days or 45 days -- with an end date, you are setting yourself up for failure and for the never-ending yo-yo dieting cycle," she said.
    For example, if you've been forbidden from eating bread, "even a stale bread basket looks amazing," said Alpert. And once you've been deprived of the foods you love, you are more susceptible to binging and eventually regaining the weight you've lost -- plus a few pounds.
    "When you put food on a pedestal, and only focus on willpower to avoid your favorite foods, you create an unhealthy relationship with food and are more likely to overeat," said Alpert.
    What's more important for success, experts say, is avoiding strict food rules -- something that is typical of many diets.
    "A sustainable eating plan that is balanced and is not restrictive is easier to adhere to in the long run," agreed Kelly Pritchett, a registered dietitian and spokeswoman for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. "Also, most diets that restrict or eliminate foods are also missing important nutrients and this can result in nutrient deficiencies."

    The non-diet diet

    Since deprivation sets us up for diet failure, one of the most important aspects of a "non-diet diet" is intentional indulgences -- that is, planned splurges without guilt attached.
    "Guilt makes you fat," said Alpert. Feeling guilty about your food choices causes you to make more poor food choices, and so it becomes a cyclical pattern, according to Alpert. "There is a time and a place for French fries and pizza and a piece of cake."
    The key, however, is planning ahead. For example, if you're going out for dinner, and you know the restaurant has an amazing chocolate cake, then you can allow some room for it by cutting back on your starches during the day. But the idea is to fully enjoy your treat while you eat it. "It's about eating intentionally ... and saying 'I'm going to have that piece of cake and not feel bad about it.' "
    Allowing yourself a small indulgence even on a daily basis can be helpful for weight management, according to Pritchett. "You have to figure out what works for you. I like two daily dark chocolate squares because it's typically satisfying," she said.

    Meals and snacks

    In terms of food choices, one of the most important principles of a non-diet diet is to include protein and fiber at every meal, and either nutrient for a snack, according to Alpert.
    Diets high in protein help to reduce appetite and help you eat fewer calories, while fiber slows the absorption of sugar into your bloodstream, which also helps keep hunger in check.
    "Fiber and protein are helpful from a satiety standpoint, meaning they keep us full and satisfied longer," said Pritchett.
    Alpert recommends an omelet filled with spinach and Cheddar cheese for breakfast; a chopped romaine salad with chicken, cucumbers, and broccoli for lunch, and sautéed shrimp over zucchini noodles with marinara sauce for dinner.
    Limiting refined starches is another key principle of a non-diet plan, since these starches are easy to overeat and get broken down into sugar quickly in the body, which can lead to increased fat storage when they are consumed in large amounts. "If you are trying to lose weight, stick to one starch per day, but once you are closer to your goals, two is fine," said Alpert. Examples of starch servings include a slice of multigrain bread, two-thirds cup of cooked pasta or four pieces of sushi.
    Eating a meal or snack every four hours is also important, as it allows your body to be fueled without creating the urge to overeat, and prevents you from becoming "hangry" according to Alpert. She also recommends allowing at least 12 to 14 hours for an overnight fast -- that is, between your dinner and the following day's breakfast, in order to get the benefits of what is known as "early time-restricted feeding" -- a form of intermittent fasting. That's when you don't eat any food for a period of time, then you eat again. It's thought this type of eating pattern may help with weight loss.
    "People can't stick to fasting for two days a week or only eating for a couple of hours during the day," said Alpert. By eating an early dinner, you get many of the same benefits of intermittent fasting without the restrictive behavior. "I'm trying to make the early-bird special cool -- can we hashtag that?" asks Alpert in her book.
    While portions are important for weight loss, Alpert said the quality of food is more important than the quantity. "I think what you are eating is so much more important than how much you are eating ... and when you are eating the right foods at the right times, you will automatically be eating closer to the right amounts -- and if you are hungry, there's nothing wrong with eating more protein and fiber," she said.

    A plan for life


    When it comes down to it, an eating plan for long-term weight loss doesn't have to be complicated. "We're really talking about how you are supposed to live every single day for the rest of your life," said Alpert.
    And that means flexibility -- including those occasional splurges -- are all part of the plan.
    "What makes this so doable is that the right choice is not always kale or spinach but perhaps a bowl of spaghetti and a fudgy brownie," Alpert wrote in "The Diet Detox." "It's these kinds of allowances --- along with a clear, concise, no-BS way of thinking about food -- that will help you make a long-term commitment to this way of eating."